Dildos for Men: Prostate Stimulation, Which Toys Are Suitable, and How to Get Started

A dildo for men is not a contradiction. It is a different form of use.

Prostate stimulation, solo use, partner play – three different scenarios, one toy. The difference is not in the toy, but in the anatomy and preparation. This guide explains what anatomically happens, which toys are suitable – and how to get started.

Prostate Stimulation: What Anatomically Happens

The prostate is located approximately 5–7 cm from the anal opening, on the anterior wall of the rectum. It can be reached via the anal region – with the right toy and the right angle.

Why is prostate stimulation a different experience? The prostate is rich in nerve endings – similar to the G-spot in women. Direct stimulation creates an experience that is qualitatively different from other types of stimuli: more intense, deeper, with a different quality of orgasm. This is why prostate stimulation is referred to as the "male G-spot" – not as marketing, but as an anatomical description.

Why curved shapes work better

The prostate is located on the anterior wall – not straight inward, but slightly forward. A straight shaft only reaches the prostate with active angle adjustment. A curved shaft (prostate curve) is designed to hit the prostate with normal insertion – without you having to actively adjust the angle. The shape works for you.

Which types of dildos are suitable for men

✓ Curved shaft with prostate curve – recommended

Specifically designed for prostate stimulation. The curve hits the prostate with normal insertion. Diameter for entry: Ø 2.5–3 cm. Shore hardness: 15–20A (soft) – yields and adapts to the anatomy.

✓ Slim straight shaft – suitable

For beginners without prior experience. Slim diameter (Ø 2.5–3 cm), smooth shaft. Prostate stimulation requires active angle adjustment, but is possible. Good starting point before switching to a curved toy.

✓ Toy with suction cup – for hands-free use

Suction cup toys allow for hands-free use – the toy is attached to a surface, you determine the angle and depth through body movement. Particularly relevant for solo use. Important: the suction cup is also the safety base – never use any toy anally without a safety base.

✓ Fantasy designs – also suitable for men

Fantasy toys with textures (nubs, ribs) create additional stimuli during insertion and movement. For beginners: first gain experience with a smooth shaft, then switch to textured toys.

→ Using a dildo with a suction cup: Setup, positions & tips

Safety: What to consider for anal use

✗ Do not use any toy anally without a safety base

This is the most important rule for anal use. The anal canal has no natural barrier – a toy without a safety base (suction cup, flared base, or handle) can be completely swallowed. This is a medical emergency.

Every toy used anally must have a safety base that is wider than the shaft. Suction cup toys automatically meet this requirement. For toys without a suction cup: ensure a sufficiently wide base.

Preparation: What's different for men

Warm-up phase: longer than for vaginal use

The anal sphincter is a voluntary muscle – it can be relaxed, but it needs time. Do not insert directly. Start externally, apply gentle pressure, wait until the muscle gives way. This takes longer than expected the first time – that's normal.

Lubricant: more than for vaginal use

The anal canal does not produce natural moisture. Lubricant is not an option for anal use – it is a prerequisite. Prefer gel consistency, apply generously, reapply as soon as movement becomes difficult. Water-based lubricant – not silicone-based for platinum silicone toys.

→ Using a dildo anally: Preparation, size & safety

Shore hardness: softer for beginners

Shore 15–20A for beginners. A soft toy yields and adapts to the anatomy – this reduces resistance during insertion and shortens the calibration phase. Firm toys (Shore 28–35A) for experienced users seeking resistance as a primary stimulus.

→ Choosing dildo hardness: What Shore hardness means and which is right for you

Warm up toy beforehand

A warm toy (38–40°C) noticeably reduces the calibration phase – the anal sphincter relaxes faster at body temperature. 3–5 minutes in warm water, dry completely, then apply lubricant.

Cleaning after anal use

After anal use: more thorough cleaning than after vaginal use. Platinum silicone can be boiled – this is the safest method after anal use. Alternatively: sterilization with medical disinfectant.

For shared use (with partner): change condom between uses, complete sterilization after the session.

→ Cleaning your dildo: The complete care guide for platinum silicone
All models made of 100% platinum silicone – non-porous, sterilizable, body-safe
With full measurements and Shore hardness for each model. → To the Dildo Collection

Frequently Asked Questions

Which diameter for beginners?

Ø 2.5–3 cm for entry. This is slimmer than a standard dildo for vaginal use – because the anal canal is narrower and needs more time to get used to. Shore hardness: 15–20A (soft). After 3–5 positive uses, the diameter can be gradually increased.

Do I need a curved shaft for prostate stimulation?

Not strictly necessary, but recommended. A curved shaft hits the prostate with normal insertion – without active angle adjustment. A straight shaft can also stimulate the prostate, but requires more control over angle and depth. For beginners: a curved shaft makes it easier.

Is a suction cup necessary?

Not necessary, but recommended for hands-free use. What is necessary: a safety base. Every toy used anally must have a base that is wider than the shaft. Suction cup toys automatically meet this requirement. Toys without a suction cup: ensure a sufficiently wide base.

How do I clean after anal use?

Boil platinum silicone (100°C, 5–10 minutes) – this is the safest method. Alternatively: medical disinfectant. Mild soap and warm water are not sufficient after anal use. For shared use: condom between uses, complete sterilization after the session.

Read more

Back to blog

You might also like