Eiffel Tower Position – The Ultimate Guide: Technique, Variations & More Intense Threesome Experience
Part of our comprehensive Sex Positions Guide – the ultimate overview of all positions for more intense experiences.
Eiffel Tower Position – the Threesome Position with a Name
Most sex positions are designed for two people. The Eiffel Tower position is one of the few explicitly developed for three people – and one that has such a concise name that it is known worldwide. One person in the middle, one from behind, one from in front. The two outer people stretch their hands over the middle person and touch – the silhouette resembles the Eiffel Tower.
From the SilikonLust perspective, the Eiffel Tower sex position is particularly interesting: it is the only common threesome position in which both penetrating people can use toys simultaneously – without getting in each other's way. Cock ring, sleeve, anal plug – everything works if properly prepared.
Table of Contents
- What is the Eiffel Tower Position – Meaning and Name
- Communication as a Threesome: The Foundation
- Technique: Positions, Angles, and Coordination
- All Variants of the Eiffel Tower Position
- The Middle Person: Stimulation and Control
- Who is the Eiffel Tower Position Suitable For?
- Penis Sleeve in the Eiffel Tower Position
- Cock Ring: Longer Threesome Sessions
- Anal Plug for the Middle Person
- MMF, MFF, MMM – All Constellations
- The Most Common Mistakes
- FAQ
What is the Eiffel Tower Position – Meaning and Name
The Eiffel Tower position – also called Eiffel Tower sex, Eiffel Tower sex position or Eiffel Tower position – describes a specific threesome constellation:
- Person A (middle) – kneels or bends forward, receiving penetration from behind and oral sex from the front simultaneously
- Person B (behind) – stands or kneels behind Person A, penetrating vaginally or anally
- Person C (in front) – stands in front of Person A, receiving oral sex or being orally stimulated
- The handshake – Person B and C stretch their hands over Person A and touch – this creates the characteristic triangular silhouette of the Eiffel Tower
The name comes from English ("Eiffel Tower position") and has been widespread in German-speaking countries since the 2000s. The Eiffel Tower position is one of the few threesome positions with its own globally known name.
Communication as a Threesome: The Foundation of the Eiffel Tower Sex Position
The Eiffel Tower position requires more preparation than any two-person position – not because of the body posture, but because of the threesome dynamic.
What needs to be clarified before the session:
- Who does what? – Who is in the middle, who behind, who in front? Can positions be swapped?
- Boundaries of all three people – discuss explicitly, do not assume
- Safer Sex – condoms, dental dams, testing – all three must agree
- Safeword – in the Eiffel Tower sex position, communication through body signals is limited – a verbal safeword is mandatory
- Toys – which toys will be used? Put everything on before the session
During the session:
- Actively provide verbal feedback
- Find the rhythm together – three rhythms must be coordinated
- Breaks are normal – pause briefly, reposition, continue
Technique: Positions, Angles, and Coordination
Person A (middle) – three options:
- Kneeling on all fours – classic basic form, similar to Doggy Style. Stable, ideal for beginners
- Standing bent forward – similar to Elephant Position. More body contact with Person B
- Lying on the bed – most relaxed variant, ideal for longer sessions
Person B (behind): Adjust tempo to Person A. Hands on Person A's hips. For the handshake: briefly release one hand, stretch it over Person A, touch Person C.
Person C (in front): Standing or kneeling in front of Person A. Tempo independent of Person B – Person A provides feedback through body signals.
The handshake – the iconic element:
The handshake between Person B and C over Person A is the namesake element of the Eiffel Tower position. It is optional – but it creates a connection between all three people that changes the dynamic.
All Variants of the Eiffel Tower Position
1. Classic Eiffel Tower Position (kneeling)
Person A on all fours, Person B kneeling from behind, Person C standing or kneeling in front. Most stable and easiest to coordinate form.
2. Standing Eiffel Tower Position
Person A stands and leans forward (similar to Elephant Position), Person B stands from behind, Person C stands in front. Spontaneous, possible anywhere.
3. Lying Eiffel Tower Position
Person A lies on the bed, Person B kneels at the edge of the bed from behind, Person C kneels at the head of the bed. Most relaxed variant for Person A.
4. Reverse Eiffel Tower
Person A in the middle, but reversed: Person B from the front (penetration), Person C from behind (oral sex or anal).
5. Eiffel Tower with Toy Support
Person B wears a penis sleeve, Person A has an anal plug inserted, Person B and C each wear a cock ring. Put everything on before the session.
The Middle Person: Stimulation and Control
- Simultaneous stimulation – penetration from behind and oral sex from the front simultaneously. The sensory overload is for many the most intense aspect of the Eiffel Tower sex position
- Limited control – Person A has less direct control over tempo and depth. Clear communication and a safeword are therefore particularly important
- Physical demand – kneeling position is tiring in the long run. Plan regular breaks or switch to the lying variant
- Emotional dynamic – being the center of attention has an emotional quality that many describe as overwhelmingly positive – but only if all boundaries are clear
Who is the Eiffel Tower Position Suitable For?
- Threesome-experienced couples and groups – not ideal for a first threesome
- MMF constellations – the classic form. Both men can use toys simultaneously
- MFF constellations – one woman in the middle, one woman in front, one man behind
- Gay couples with a third person – MMM constellation, all three roles can be flexibly filled
- Couples who want to use toys in threesome situations – one of the most toy-friendly threesome positions
Penis Sleeve in the Eiffel Tower Position
In the Eiffel Tower position, Person B (behind) has a specific challenge: longer performance, while Person A is simultaneously stimulated from the front. This creates pressure. A penis sleeve solves this:
- Reduced direct stimulation – naturally extends the session without mental pressure
- More texture for Person A – a ribbed fantasy sleeve made of platinum silicone creates a quality of stimulation that a natural penis cannot offer
- Depth control – a sleeve with a defined length sets a natural boundary
- Odorless – Person C is very close to Person B's body. Platinum silicone is completely odorless – no latex smell, no plastic smell
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Cock Ring: Longer Threesome Sessions
Sessions in the Eiffel Tower position are often longer than two-person sex – coordination, position changes, and breaks take time. A cock ring supports both penetrating people:
- For Person B (behind) – slows blood outflow, intensifies erection, extends the session
- For Person C (in front) – same effect; a cock ring with a clitoral stimulator arm can additionally stimulate Person A
- Put on before the session – in the Eiffel Tower sex position, no hands are free for adjustments
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Anal Plug for the Middle Person
Person A already receives simultaneous stimulation from front and back. A platinum silicone anal plug, inserted before the session, adds a third layer of stimulation – completely passive. In the kneeling basic form, body posture naturally keeps the plug in position. With every movement of Person B, the plug is slightly activated – constant background stimulation.
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MMF, MFF, MMM – All Constellations
| Constellation | Person A (Middle) | Person B (Behind) | Person C (In front) | Toy Recommendation |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| MMF (classic) | Woman | Man (vaginal) | Man (oral sex) | Sleeve for B, cock ring for C, anal plug for A |
| MFF | Woman | Man (vaginal) | Woman (oral sex) | Sleeve for B, vibrator for C, anal plug for A |
| MMM | Man | Man (anal) | Man (oral sex) | Sleeve for B, cock ring for C, anal plug for A |
| FFM | Man | Woman (strap-on) | Woman (oral sex) | Strap-on sleeve for B, vibrator for C |
| FFF | Woman | Woman (strap-on) | Woman (oral sex) | Strap-on sleeve for B, vibrator for C, anal plug for A |
The Most Common Mistakes in the Eiffel Tower Position
| Mistake | Why it happens | Solution |
|---|---|---|
| No agreements before the session | One thinks it will happen spontaneously | Discuss explicitly: roles, boundaries, safeword, toys |
| No safeword | One forgets it in the excitement | Establish safeword before the session – all three must know it |
| Person A kneeling for too long | Nobody takes a break | Regular breaks, switch to the lying variant |
| Toys not prepared | One thinks one can adjust during the session | Cock ring, sleeve, anal plug – put everything on before the session |
| Rhythm conflict between B and C | Both follow their own pace | Person A dictates the rhythm through body signals |
| Aftercare forgotten | Often needed after intense sessions | Time for all three to process the experience |
FAQ – Frequently Asked Questions about the Eiffel Tower Position
What is the Eiffel Tower Position?
The Eiffel Tower position is a threesome sex position: Person A in the middle simultaneously receives penetration from behind (Person B) and oral sex from the front (Person C). Person B and C stretch their hands over Person A and touch – the silhouette resembles the Eiffel Tower.
Where does the name Eiffel Tower Position come from?
Person A forms the base, Person B and C bring their hands together over Person A – this creates the characteristic triangular shape. The term comes from English and has been widespread in German-speaking countries since the 2000s.
Who is the Eiffel Tower Position suitable for?
For threesome-experienced groups with clear agreements. The Eiffel Tower sex position is not ideal for a first threesome – first try simpler positions, practice communication.
Which toys work in the Eiffel Tower Position?
Penis sleeve for Person B (longer session, more texture), cock ring for Person B and C, anal plug for Person A. All made of platinum silicone – odorless, body-safe.
Is the Eiffel Tower Position suitable for gay couples?
Yes – the MMM constellation is one of the most common variants. Person A receives anal penetration from behind and oral sex from the front. All three roles can be flexibly filled.
What is the difference between Eiffel Tower Position and a threesome?
A threesome is the general term. The Eiffel Tower position is a specific position with the characteristic handshake over the middle person. Not every threesome is an Eiffel Tower position.
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